Fact: Being “positive” and being forward focused are two different things. Yet, it is alarming: when someone receives bad news, others will often attempt to assist those in need by encouraging them to “be positive.”

Depending on the state of mind of the person in need, those around him might be cautious; such a coaching approach is likely to backfire – and make matters worse. Why? Because there’s not a lot that is positive, for instance, about firing people, cutting budgets, and missing your child’s ball game because you have to meet with a client.

Most certainly, those who extend the “be positive” proclamation should not be blamed; they are attempting to help. And, consider that you can increase the awareness of such well-intended colleagues by assuring others understand how “being positive” falls short of living and leading in a forward focused manner.

By definition, being positive includes hope, and it has the essence of rhetoric. Forward focus is biased towards action, and has the essence of discipline – which results in greater hope for tomorrow. Being positive means being nice; alternatively, forward focus has, among other things, three important components. It means that in interactions you work to develop:

• the person,
• the relationship,
• and results.

Of course, in some interactions you may only achieve one of the three elements above. But any approach that does not consistently strive to accomplish all three cannot be sustained – and is disastrous in the long term.

The three components of being forward focused can have a positive effect. It can feel good. But, unlike “the positive approach,” the forward focus approach can also be used during “negative” events. In such situations, people don’t necessarily feel good, but they know what must be done to build people, relationships and results long term.

And that’s a good thing.

 Vannoy & Ross

 

It’s never been this bad. According to 22 years of polling by The Conference Board, job satisfaction has declined to 45%. And those who find their job interesting are a measly 51%. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34691428/ns/business-careers/from/ET

Ironically, in an era when bosses have to do more with less, when companies are scurrying to differentiate themselves… how effective can they be when half of their employees don’t care?

This situation is akin to a parent trying to get their teenager to do their homework on a Friday night. The parent demands, threatens, incentivizes – but the child just doesn’t want to be there. They’re not interested, yet they’re forced to deliver results.

There are a lot of variables when considering the causes for the poor numbers. Unquestionably, the employee is responsible. It’s up to you and your focus to determine whether you find anything interesting.

The distressing trend also proves that a “let management do the thinking – you do the working” mentality persists. Undoubtedly, there are organizations today who are taking advantage of the unemployment rate; who is going to leave their job when their neighbors are unemployed?

But this approach defies logic. Why would any leader pay someone a wage and then lead them in a manner where they get “homework on a Friday night” sorts of results?

This week, be a trend breaker. Regardless of your position, begin to make the workplace more interesting by doubling the amount of questions you ask. The allure of joining the chorus of those who want to spout their opinions is strong. (Visualize ten people in a meeting, all taking turns sharing how bad they think things are.)

Break the status quo by asking questions such as:

• What do you think we could do differently?
• If you could paint the perfect scenario here, what would it be?
• Why is it important for us to do our best here?

The mindset one chooses is dramatically affected by the environment around them.  Make that environment more interesting today.

 

 

I asked him, “Why not?”

“Because they never work.”

Did you catch it? This man is at risk of making a crucial error in judgment – and it may cost him dearly in the year ahead. The error isn’t that he didn’t create a New Year’s resolution; his error is that he doesn’t believe he can change.

Immeasurable human potential will be lost in 2010 because too many people won’t even try to change. How will you ensure that 2010 is not a repeat of 2009 for you? Beware of these three obstacles, and when you encounter them blow through them.

1. The “Mis-Identification” Obstacle: Too many people identify themselves with the results they create. This ensures future paralysis as you eventually will deliver sub-par performance – meaning YOU are sub-par. (Really? - Not.) Dissolve this obstacle by positioning all outcomes as fodder for the hungry person you are.
2. The “I Don’t Really Care” Obstacle: This is a silly game we all play with ourselves. When you try something new and don’t succeed your defense is to fool yourself into believing you don’t care. Dissolve this obstacle by memorizing this question – and answering it frequently: Why do I care?
3. The “Query Quandary” Obstacle: It’s a fact that questions trigger the mind. Yet, when most people trip while attempting to achieve, they ask the wrong question: “What am I doing wrong?” This puts them in a quandary: by answering this question they become experts at failure. (And thus, fail more.) Dissolve this obstacle by asking forward focus questions such as, “What will I do better next time?”

 

Don’t kill the messenger: A new year is here. Change efforts – be it resolutions or otherwise – do work if the change technology you’re using is effective.

Here’s to blowing through obstacles in the months ahead.